Seattle to Glacier Bay, AK and Back on a 32' Boat with Twin One Year Olds

We've been home for three weeks now, it's really hard to imagine just how quickly time has flown.

We've had some time to think and talk about this trip and what it is we want to remember about it and lessons we've learned for living on land.  Parts of this trip were INCREDIBLY difficult, learning how to live and travel with two toddlers on a 32' boat, watching the boys get sea sick, the scary times were all that much scarier because we were responsible for two little people, diaper washing and living with raccoons. That being said...we wouldn't have changed ANY of it for the world.

Togetherness
Our little nuclear family lived in a very small space for 3.5 months total (not including the time in Ketchikan because of work commitments).  We could always see each other and always hear each other.  Our close physical proximity led to a whole lot more snuggling, hugs and book reading with little boys than when little boys are free to roam in a much bigger space.  It was wonderful to have the time, the close proximity and the lack of distractions to witness the magic of the daily changes in the boys as they grew and developed.  Our final destination and the travel to and from there was incredible, but hands down, the best part of the trip was the time we got to spend together as a family.  When Tor is at work he sees the boys for about an hour and a half a day.  It stabs his heart every time we put the boys to bed and he has to say "I'll see you tomorrow night,"  a great day is a weekend when he can tell them "I'll see you in the morning."  This is the biggest adjustment we have to make to living on land.  I always had support instead of being out numbered all day, and Tor got to see the boys all day everyday.  We are trying to make sure that weekends are for family, not chores to help rectify this.  Tor and I are trying to get the chores done in the evenings so that weekends are free.  Last weekend was fantastic and it went a long way to making us all feel better about Tor being back at work.

Self-sufficiency
I've always enjoyed being self-sufficient.  Tor and I started our relationship backpacking.  We renovated our house and built our boat by ourselves.  We have a huge vegetable garden for living in the city.  We took our boat around Vancouver Island and to Glacier Bay and back.  We find it incredibly satisfying to be successfully reliant on our selves, our creativity, and our preparations for any endeavor we may embark upon.  We decided to add parenting to the mix on our most ambitious adventure yet, and at times we thought we were simply stupid, but in the end, it was the most empowering thing we've ever done.  As parents, we were completely responsible in a way that living in a city you aren't.  When we were the only boat in an anchorage that was hundreds of miles away from the nearest "civilization," we couldn't call a babysitter and head out for a beer when things got rough.  We were entirely responsible for their safety since an ER wasn't down the street.  The sense that we had to be self-sufficient with everything the boys threw at us made us more patient and more creative in our problem-solving in tough parenting situations.  It made us stronger parents.

Simplicity
We are mostly back into the groove of life on land and it is terrific, absolutely terrific, to be home with family, friends, the cats and our trusty washer and dryer.  But, we have quickly lost how simple life was this summer.  Being on land means there are all sorts of distractions we didn't have on board...constant internet access, netflix streaming for TV after the boys go to bed, long involved grocery shopping because we have storage and refrigeration, yard work, housework, oh, and the work that pays the bills.  Given all the time we spent washing diapers this summer, you might think we would have lots of extra time now that we can just throw them in the machine down in the basement, but we don't seem to.  We still have laundry baskets full of food from the boat that haven't been put away, a dresser full of 12 mo clothes the boys were wearing before we left on the trip and their current 2T clothes stashed in boxes on top of the dresser...or in piles on the coffee table.

The boat is small and that necessitates that we be careful about what is brought on board.  The house is big and we haven't been too careful about what comes in the door...after 10 years of living here, we are living in clutterville!  The overwhelming feeling when we got home was our house is so small, because we don't have room to store stuff.  One of the most important lessons that I hope we bring from our summer on the boat to living on land is to be careful with the amount of stuff we have.  It's high time we de-clutter this house and streamline how we live in it...a lot like living on a small boat.

Taking care of the boat so it takes care of us
One of the key reasons we had such an enjoyable trip is that we didn't run into any major boat trouble.  We take good care of our boat and she takes good care of us.  We are aggressive with our maintenance, and it helps that we know every inch of the boat intimately because we built her.  We were very happy with how the boat performed, and very happy with the preventive maintenance we did before hand.  Now, time for maintenance....water pump, a haul out, sand blast the bottom?....

Conservative Values
Okay, we aren't talking about our political leanings.  We are talking about the fact that we were conservative with our seamanship (seapersonship?).  We had the time to do this trip right.  For the most part we never faced any major schedule pressures that would have caused us to head out if the conditions were uncomfortable or unsafe.  We had the time to wait if need be.  We were insanely lucky with weather and only had two separate weather delays, but if we hadn't been so lucky, we would have taken the time needed.  Those little boys were counting on us to make it a safe trip and we took that responsibility very seriously.  We did have a particularly bad night (Lasqueti Island), and it wasn't safe, but we took lessons from it and learned.

This was an incredible trip to make as a family.  We are so excited to see the boys grow up on the water, and for us to be a sailing family.  Our timing for making a trip with such young kiddos feels perfect now that we can look back at it.  We got home on a Sunday night and on Monday morning both Lars and Odin walked across the living room.  Their need for physical activity has increased, and we are so glad that we aren't on the boat trying to accommodate that while making 40 miles a day.  Spending time with the boys on the boat from this point forward will probably be a lot more about finding good beaches for running around on or tidepooling, until they can really take part in the sailing.

This was a BIG trip, in miles traveled, in country seen, and especially in impact to us as a family.  We are still really close to it, and trying to write a summary post has been difficult.  We consider it a work in progress....